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I’ve always been a little bit messy (if my parents are reading this, they’re thinking: A little bit?!?). But I’m just not one of those people who thinks that everything has a place and that the house isn’t clean until everything is in its place.
As such, when I was a teenager, my room could be a pretty scary place. My parents tried to impress upon me the importance of having things neat and tidy, but I just thought they were too perfectionistic.
As I got older, I slowly began to realize that there is a connection between chaos in the home and chaos in the family. It’s really difficult to relax and feel content when everything around you is a mess. But something still seemed to be missing in my understanding of homemaking.
Once I left my full time job to be a full time stay at home wife and mom, I started to consider more deeply the impact I could have on my family through my job as a homemaker.
And no, I didn’t realize that keeping the house spotless all day, everyday was the key to happiness (sorry mom and dad, I’m still a little messy!).
But what I did realize is that, while keeping a tidy home is important, there is so much more to homemaking than just that.
I realized that homemaking is a ministry to my family.
(The book A Wife After God’s Own Heart: 12 Things that Really Matter in Your Marriage by Elizabeth George played a huge part in this realization for me. If you need some encouragement and practical ways to minister to your husband and children, I highly recommend getting this book!)
Through the work that we do as homemakers, we are able to demonstrate God’s love to our families and everyone else who enters our homes.
Homemaking is about creating a peaceful, loving, Christ-centered environment where your family can come to get away from the everyday pressures and stresses of this world.
You can have the cleanest home in the world and still be creating an environment for your family that is as unhealthy and toxic as it would be if your home were filled with squalor.
If you find yourself cleaning all day, with no time to relax, working yourself into a lather because you feel unappreciated and overworked, then what kind of environment are your husband and kids coming home to? (or if your kids are still home during the day, what kind of environment are they in all day long?) What kind of wife and mom are they coming home to?
If you can’t sit down to spend time with your family because the chores aren’t complete, are you really using your time wisely?
Yes, the house will be clean. But what about you and your family?
Proverbs 14:1 reminds us that:
“A wise woman builds her home, but a foolish one tears it down with her own hands.”
Which of these options are you sowing in your home?
Find time to clean, sure, but even more importantly find ways to fill your home with Christ’s love.
Do you and your family talk openly and often about Scripture?
Do you read the Bible and Bible stories with your husband and children?
Do you pray for and with your family on a regular (daily) basis?
Do you strive to fill your home with warmth and laughter?
As homemakers, we have the incredible opportunity to create an environment where Christ’s presence is sensed. Doing these things may mean putting a few chores on the back-burner so that you can greet your family with a smile and hugs and kisses. So that you can make a hot meal and gather your family around a table for good food and great conversation. So that you can read a Bible story and pray before bed.
Think of the example of sisters Mary and Martha (Luke 10:38-42). Martha invited Jesus to their home for a meal, which she busily prepared while Mary sat at Jesus’ feet, listening to His teaching.
Martha decided she would complain to Jesus: “Lord, doesn’t it seem unfair to you that my sister just sits here while I do all the work? Tell her to come and help me.”
But Jesus wasn’t having it. He replies:
“My dear Martha, you are worried and upset over all these details! There is only one thing worth being concerned about. Mary has discovered it, and it will not be taken away from her.”
There is only one thing worth being concerned about. And that one thing is Jesus.
And for those of you who are thinking: Without Martha, Jesus wouldn’t have had a meal to eat that night! I say: A little multitasking goes a long way. As you work through your chores during the day, pray for your family. As you make dinner, put on some upbeat Christian music. Talk with your kids about Jesus as you give them their nightly baths. Instead of Dr. Seuss, read a Bible story before bed.
Make Christ the center of everything you do.
A somewhat messy, Christ-filled home will always be better than an incredibly clean home that is devoid of Jesus’ presence.
Fill your home with the love of Christ. View your homemaking as a ministry, a demonstration of His love, and an example of His service.