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We all want to find ways to be closer to our husbands. God gave us this man that is meant to be our soulmate, passionate lover, and best friend. We desire deep intimacy but sometimes we end up with great distance instead.

During times of distance, you may find yourself doing everything you can to “fix” the issue. You try harder. You do more. You’re determined to close the chasm that has developed.

But if you find yourself emotionally, physically, and spiritually far from your husband, the first thing you need to do is:

Look to your relationship with God.

Are you far from Him, too?

Take an honest assessment of the amount of time you are spending working on your primary relationship (you and God) because your primary relationship directly impacts your secondary one (you and your husband).

Think of Jesus’ words:

“Abide in me, and I in you. As the branch cannot bear fruit by itself unless it abides in the vine, neither can you, unless you abide in me” (John 15:4).

“Cannot bear fruit.” That’s pretty significant as the Fruits of the Spirit are love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, and self-control (Galatians 5:22-23).

If we’re not abiding in Christ, then we’re not bearing His fruit. So if we don’t have those things, what exactly do we have?

Nothing good that I can think of.

My husband tells me that the most beautiful part of me is my relationship with Jesus. Sure he loves my looks and personality, but none of that compares to true spiritual beauty (Proverbs 31:30, 1 Peter 3:3-4). And that beauty only comes from abiding in Christ.

The less time I spend with Jesus, the more I look (and act) like a thorn bush rather than a vine covered in beautiful spiritual fruit. Needless to say, it’s difficult for a husband (or anyone, for that matter) to be close to a thorn bush.

If you want to grow closer to your husband, you must start by growing closer to Jesus.

Seek Him every day. Study God’s Word. Pray. Joyfully worship your Lord and Savior. Take time, as Mary did, to simply sit at His feet and listen (Luke 10:39). Adore Him. Abide in Him.

And He will abide in you. He will change your heart and your ways.

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It may take time, but developing a closer relationship with Christ will help you to develop a closer relationship to your husband.

Now I’d love to hear from you. Have you noticed that your relationship with Christ impacts your relationship with your husband?One Thing that will Bring You Closer to Your Husband


1 Comment

  1. This is so true! When my husband and I were in our dating phase, it was evident that our relationship was always so much better when we were focused and intentional with our relationship with God. Now that we’re married, we always want to do more to feel close, but none of it has worked. Frankly, it’s pushed us far from each other. Our efforts were never good enough, but as soon as one of us redirected to God, our relationship is better than ever and we are able to help and aide each other with our walks with Jesus, resulting in a better and closer marriage.