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I’m not sure how we got to this place, but it seems there’s a pervasive attitude that self-care is inherently selfish. Sinful even.

Especially if you’re a Christian, a woman, and/or a wife and mom.

If you’re a Christian woman who is also a wife and mom, you’re pretty much allowed zero time to yourself without getting judged by others and feeling guilt to the very core of your being.

We’re told to give, give, give. All the time.

Don’t be lazy. Don’t be selfish. Serve others.

Yes, giving is good. Yes, productivity is good. And, yes, serving others is definitely good.

But how are you going to do that if you never take care of yourself?

How do you give when you’re running on empty?

God knows you need rest. He knows you need some time to unwind and relax. He knows you can’t keep going or you will eventually collapse. Why do you think He gave us a Sabbath? A full day of rest.

Many people view the Sabbath as a set of rules: Don’t do this and don’t do that. Really, the Sabbath is a gift to us from our wonderful, loving Heavenly Father. He created us so He knows all of our limitations. He knows we need to care for ourselves so that we can continue serving for His glory.Matthew 11:28-29

God has already given us His express permission to take time for ourselves.

It is not selfish, sinful, or lazy.

God rested. On the seventh day of creation, He rested (Genesis 2:2-3).

Jesus rested (Mark 6:31-32). I think too often we think of Jesus as fully God and forget that He was also fully human. He need time to rest and heal, just like us.

Do you remember what was happening in Mark 4 when the storm came and the
disciples were afraid? Jesus was sleeping in the boat. He was resting.

And after John the Baptist was killed, Jesus took time to feed and heal many, and then He went off by Himself to pray (Matthew 14:13-23). He needed rest. Time for Himself. Time with God. Time to recharge so that He could continue serving others.

Taking time for self-care is not just good for you, it’s good for everyone around you.

It’s okay to take a break, have a cup of coffee, read your Bible, take a bath, pray, journal, exercise, chat with a friend.

It’s okay to take some time, relax, and care for yourself.

When you take time for self-care, you then have more to give to your family, friends,
and community.

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Find a balance that works for you between self-care and caring for others.

If you’re still feeling guilty about taking time to care for yourself, let Jesus’ words comfort you:

“Come to me all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from Me; for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls” (Matthew 11:28-29).Dear Fellow Christians: Self-Care is Not Selfish



  1. Kim Buinicky

    So well said, Bree. And so timely for me personally. I have been thinking about this a lot lately and know that it is from the Lord. So much so, that I am renting a one room cabin next month in Hocking Hills for three nights to get away and be alone with the Lord. Just last night I said to a friend how Jesus got away to rest, that he was fully God but also human and had to take care of that side of who he was. How much more should we? I’ve also been thinking about how God gave us the Sabbath specifically for rest. I truly feel that your words today are God’s affirming what he’s been speaking into me for the last several months. I have always struggled with feeling guilty for doing something for myself; it is so comforting to know my Father is calling me out and away to Himself and wants me to reject the lies of the enemy. I love you, sister, and miss you! Knowing that you have been contemplating the same thoughts and feeling the same convictions makes me miss you even more. Keep sharing what God is showing you. You are a blessing!

    • Bree

      Thank you so much for these encouraging words. I have to tell you, even as I was writing this post, I was second guessing myself and asking God if this was really what He wanted me to write. It felt self-indulgent even typing the words. But I just kept going back to it and decided that it’s a message God wanted me to send. Reading your comment this morning was so affirming. God is just amazing. And I think a trip to Hocking Hills to spend time with the Lord sounds like a wonderful idea!!! Hocking Hills is so beautiful, and I bet you’ll return rested and reconnected with God. I love you and miss you so so much! You inspire me in many, many ways! 🙂

  2. I love this! It’s something I’ve battled with for a long time and only recently have I actually been forced to come to terms with this. I have to care for me if I’m to care for others. I love this post.