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This past week, my entire family came down with a terrible stomach virus. Needless to say, it was a tough week all around.

While we were sick, my thoughts and prayers were filled with concern for my family, especially our young daughter, who we worried would need to go to the hospital (thankfully, she bounced back quickly!).

Once we were all on the mend, my thoughts quickly turned to everything that was sorely neglected during those days of sickness: The housework, this blog, appointments that were missed, and so on. My to-do list quickly grew, and I felt exhausted trying to catch up on everything, or at least not get further behind.

I didn’t prioritize prayer or Bible study time. I found myself making a mental grocery list during play time with my daughter. I started thinking about Faithfully Committed while my husband was trying to have a conversation with me. I was thinking about housework while trying to work on a blog post.

And, all the while, I was missing out. I missed out on the most important part of my day: Time spent with the Lord. I missed out on smiles from my daughter. I missed a chance for a good conversation and connection with my husband.

I was allowing myself to be pulled in so many different directions that I wasn’t actually accomplishing anything and, even more importantly, I wasn’t focusing on the things that really matter: God and my family.Taking Time to Focus on What Really Matters Today

So this morning, I decided it was time to put away my to-do list, just for a little while.

Instead of spending time worrying about all that I was not doing, I spent time with God in Bible study and in prayer. Instead of working feverishly to catch up on chores during my daughter’s nap time, I went back to bed with my husband and just enjoyed being his wife for a little while. Instead of trying to get all the housework done at once, I sat down and played with my daughter, relishing her smiles and giggles and snuggles. Instead of making a lightning-fast trip to the grocery store by myself, we made a leisurely trip as a family. We ended up running into friends and decided to have lunch together. We laughed and talked and enjoyed the fresh air and sunshine. It was a wonderful day.

Yes, the chores still needed to get done, and I still had responsibilities waiting for me. And I did complete each task, one by one, after tending to my relationships with God and my family.

I’m still a wife, mom, and homemaker (facts for which I praise God every single day), but beyond the long to-do lists, these primary roles call for me to spend time with God, my husband, and our daughter. Not distracted by the tasks of the day but fully focused on loving them.

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One of the best things I can do for my household today is to give God, my husband, and our daughter my full love and attention while letting go of everything else, just for a little while.

That’s the to-do list that really matters.Taking Time to Focus on What Really Matters Today



  1. Beautifully written! This is a reminder that we all need. It is so easy to get caught up in the to-do’s and miss what is really important. I was doing this so badly that I was angry at my entire household. I was dissatisfied with my life and blamed it on them. I knew better. I had long ago made the decision that I would not be that person, but I slipped. I started finding my worth in that to-do list, and my family suffered. But I also suffered, but we will never truly find worth in that list. Only God can fill that void.

    Thanks so much for sharing!

    • Bree

      Amy, thank you so much for your kind words and sharing your experience! I have definitely been there with focusing way too much on getting things done instead of investing my energy and time on the relationships that really matter. I agree, our worth is found only in God! Thanks again! 🙂

  2. Good God filled day everyone. I recently had a terrible asthma attack. Everyday GOD is healing the physical. But more than just the physical was suffering but my emotional and spiritual was having an attack. Only Jesus can heal ALL that was and is still out of order. But I AM so glad to be still here able to witness of the Grace God gave me. So as this post states reevaluations are necessary and need to be NOW.

  3. Thank you for this reminder. I’m constantly at a battle of loving being a stay at home mother and wanting to go back to work. But I chose a long time ago I would be a stay at home mom. Lately, I’ve felt drained. And when I take time to evaluate why I felt so drained, I have come to realize that my relationship with God is not where it needs to be. I need to draw my strength on Him daily. Not just when I feel like it. Or when I need it, but daily. Thanks again for this reminder!

    Be blessed!

    • Bree

      Monica, thank you so much for sharing! It’s so important to rely on God for our strength. We can’t do this on our own. Thank you for reading! Blessings to you!

  4. This! It hits everything I have been feeling lately and exactly the mindset for a post I’m working on. It’s so easy to let your mind wander, but it’s so refreshing knowing there’s other mama’s out there with the same mindset ❤️

    • Bree

      Thank you, Lauren! Yes, so wonderful to meet a kindred spirit! Thank you for stopping by! 🙂

  5. What a wonderful post! I’m a wife and Christian blogger as well, so i can relate on trying to focus on my husband and not think about the blog. My husband and I also had the stomach virus for 2 weeks! So it definitely put my schedule back by a lot. It took me about the rest of the month to be back on track but after reading this post I realized that its the relationships that matter, not the duties. Thanks for sharinf! I enjoy reading your posts!

  6. LauraCatherine

    I think, the fact that my anxiety rose as I read, at the thought of the to-do-list getting so far behind (and i am not a naturally anxious person) means i REALLY need to get serious about this. Thanks for sharing, for being honest and vulnerable.

  7. So good. I feel this exact turmoil DAILY. Like I have to choose between getting “stuff done” or being intentional with my time and focusing on what really matters. I love when you said you just “laid in bed with your husband and enjoyed being his wife.” I often put him on the back burner, so it was refreshing to hear how important it is. Blessings!