Ever looked in a mirror and not been super happy with what you saw staring back at you?
Maybe you just woke up and your hair is a tangled mess or it’s just one of those bad skin days we all get at certain times of the month.
Or, even worse than a regular mirror, what about unexpectedly catching a glimpse of yourself in one of those magnified mirrors where you can see every pore and wrinkle?
Whatever the reason, sometimes it’s just easier not to look in the mirror at all, right?
Well, since I’ve been married I’ve come to realize that marriage is one big figurative mirror (often a magnified one!) where we can all too easily see every sin and every flaw that we harbor in our hearts and minds reflected back to us by our spouses.
Confession time: After I wrote my last post Are You Lying to Yourself about Anger?, I closed my laptop and immediately started thinking about a recent situation that was bothering me.
My exact thought was, “She makes me so angry sometimes!”
I had no sooner finished writing a paragraph about blaming our anger on others when I did just that! How’s that for convicting?
Sometimes marriage can seem overwhelming, especially if you and your spouse are having a rough day (or week or month).
Maybe you want to make some improvements, but you feel like you’d need to move mountains to achieve anything.
Well, take a deep breath and remember what Jesus tells us about faith:
“Truly I tell you, if you have faith as small as a mustard seed, you can say to this mountain, ‘Move from here to there,’ and it will move. Nothing will be impossible for you” (Matthew 17:20).
All in all, you probably think your husband is pretty great, right?
Sure he has his faults but nobody is perfect.
You think you do a pretty good job of letting him know he’s appreciated. And you probably do.
So you’d never do or say anything that would emasculate him.
Unfortunately, it seems that it is becoming more and more the norm to insult and emasculate our husbands. To the point where I don’t even think we really notice that we’re doing it anymore.
Forgiveness has become a somewhat touchy subject in our society.
As we become more and more individualistic- focusing on ourselves rather than others, looking out for own interests, protecting our hearts at all costs- we become less likely to forgive those who hurt us.
It has become the celebrated norm to walk away as soon as someone hurts you.
Leaving makes you tough and independent, staying makes you weak and needy.
As is so often the case, however, we, as Christians, are called to live differently. When Peter asks Jesus how often he is to forgive someone, the answer he gets is “seventy times seven” (Matthew 18:22).
We read that and think, really?! Seventy times seven is a lot of forgiveness!
But that’s nothing compared to the forgiveness offered to us through the self-sacrificial love of Jesus Christ.
Here are some painful facts for you: